Living in the In-Between

I visited my new home this week and I could quite easily have moved in, there and then.

This in-between stage, where the Solicitors are doing their thing is necessary – I know that – but I also find it frustrating.

I spent a good 30 minutes in the garden, just looking at the view and planning.

There is lots of work to do, but I love a blank canvas.

The next day I wanted to start packing, planning, imagining what life might look like in this next chapter.

Is it too early? Probably.

But I’ve still got boxes from when I sold the Barn in 2024, so I started going through those. If you read my previous blog, you will know letting go of certain things hasn’t been easy.

I found a blanket that I bought in France in 2016, on my first holiday after my divorce, it’s been with me through a lot – cosy nights on the sofa, yoga retreats, tug of war with the dog. This time I knew it was ready to go.

I stood holding it for a moment, thinking about where I was when I bought it – how different life felt then, how much has changed since.

Part of me wanted to hold onto that just a bit longer but I also knew that I didn’t need the blanket for that, the memories are still there, whether I keep it or not.

In a way, letting go felt like acknowledgment of how far things have moved on and how much I have changed.

This in-between stage isn’t just about waiting, it’s a time where things begin to shift.

Where you can begin to let go of the parts that belong in a different time and start making room for what’s coming next. It’s something I’ve been noticing not just in my own life but also in the conversations I’ve started having with other women.

That sense of being between things – not quite where you were but not fully where you want to be.

So, if you find yourself in a similar situation, here are a few things that can help:

• Clear out anything that no longer fits your life or has seen better days. I’ve ended up with 3 piles – charity, auction and what’s coming with me.
• Start to think about where things might go. It doesn’t have to be right and may even change, but it helps you begin to move forward.
• Perhaps most importantly, think about how you want your home to feel. I’ve spoken about this before, a home is so much more than how it looks – it’s a feeling. You might want to carry the feeling from where you are now or you may want to create something new – there is no right or wrong.

There’s no rush to have it all figured out but sometimes this in-between stage can give you the space you need.

Sue x